We had a nice day with my side of the family at my parents house, my godmother and family, my brother and sister-in-law, my aunt and uncle, my cousin, his wife and girls, and E. came for the fun time with the girls, to celebrate with a small sample of my very large, crazy family.
I cannot believe that E.'s mom had a Mother's Day without her one and only child AGAIN. The first time she was 6 years old and crying "why doesn't mommy want to spend Mother's Day with me?" and we tried with all of our might to hold back tears and reassure her that it wasn't her fault and that mommy wanted her to celebrate with her new family now (meaning me and daddy) and to get used to me. We spent that day with honey's mom, her grandmother. Now, 3 years later, she pulled it again. She would rather spend the day doing something else. I couldn't believe it. I cried again, this time, E. didn't. She was fine. She wanted to spend the day with the kids anyway and have an adventure with tons of family. That made us feel good that she wanted to be with us, but we still felt terrible.
But then, at 9am on Sunday, she showed up wearing pajama pants and an offensive Happy Bunny t-shirt, and sneakers. We were going to church at 10am. And since we are living out of boxes and the rest of her clothes are at her mom's, we had NOTHING for her to change into. Honey ran after her mom to ask WHY on earth she was wearing pajama pants (after we specifically told E. not to) and didn't even look washed, her mom said that she was fine and sped away. Floored. We were absolutely floored.
So, off I went to find ANYTHING that might fit her. We wound up skipping church so we could do laundry of clothes that fit her (I found some stuff that was ok for a BBQ, but still not appropriate for church). We got her cleaned up and we actually were early at my parents house. It worked out in the end. But come on, why isn't there monitoring of what the custodial parent is (or in this case, isn't) doing? Can't we just get on the same page in deed, not just in word? It is really frustrating.
Then to make me cry even more, she made me a card (so cute) and gave me gift. A charm bracelet that says MOM. The link-to-link kind that we can add these to. I told her we can pick them out together and it would be just about us, nothing on it about the baby. Our special thing. She seemed excited about that.
Now, E.'s musical is this weekend. We are so excited for her. She told us that she has about 20 people coming to see her between our family and her mom's and her friends. Who will be the one with flowers and balloons for her every night? That's right, us.
Thank you to Mom, Grandma, Nana, Oma, ALL of my aunts, and K. for showing me the way of a good mom. I hope to live up to what you do everyday.
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